On the first of June, friends of ours are getting married and we are invited. So, obviously, I need a dress. I'd been casually thinking about that little fact before but not that seriously until I realised it was already May...
And then, E. suggested that I might match him....
E. owns only one suit and I don't think he has ever worn the trousers and jacket together yet. In fact, I know he hasn't. I was there when he bought it and it was after the previous three weddings in our circle of friends.
This one suit is black, a sort of muted, not-entirely-saturated sort of black. You know, it's the kind of black fabric which doesn't match at least half of the other black fabrics you may come across at any given time. And he has two formal shirts to go with it, both of which are in a peculiar blue-ish pale grey.
I've been pretty good about trying colours lately but to match this outfit... Are you surprised that the only fabrics in my shamefully large stash which were a match for E's suit were some solid black ones?
I've got some very nice prints, but they all contain either true white or a cream colour or a blue-ish inky black. I also have some really nice fabrics in colours which really suit me quite well, warm mossy green, coral red, certain kinds of blue...
None of the above goes with the suit.
I've made this dress, in a black cotton voile. I'm leaving it to hang for a few days before I hem that half circle skirt. On the one hand, it is nice although it still needs a slip and possibly a crinoline petticoat (which I haven't made yet). On the other, it's black. Unmistakebly so.
I actually bought a wide ribbon which matches the colour of E's shirt but I really don't like the look of it with the dress. It just looks crappy and cheap.
I'll show you these things on me later, but it rained this afternoon which meant it was too dark to take self-timer pictures, and did I mention needing a slip?
I went to the market today with that shirt in my bag trying to find a non-black fabric which would go with it. I only bought more black and that ribbon...
And I'm already obsessing about fabric. Is a normal cotton too casual for a wedding?
I should add that we'll just be two among many friends. We're not "those who have been best friends with the happy couple ever since primary school", or anything like that. So, it's very likely no-one will actually pay attention to what I will wear.
I've never had a lot of ideas about dressing for occasions like this other than 'don't upstage the bride' but I read somewhere that one shouldn't wear black to a wedding unless it's to show disapproval. And I wish them all the best.
Please give me your opinion, dear readers: is it or isn't it OK to wear black to a wedding? Would the black be less obvious if the dress were more of an LBD kind of shape (slim and fitted)? Is it a nice idea for a couple of nearly ten years to have sort-of-matching looks for the occasion? Is it bad to have clashing looks? What would you do?
P.S. E won't wear a tie and pocket squares would look silly without, so there won't be another colour in the details.
P.P.S. Of course I could ask him to buy another shirt but he's only worn one of these once, so it would be a bit of a waste...
P.P.P.S. If I settle on some design and fabric, I should still easily be able to make a dress before the wedding.